Spitting certainly is one of my all time favourite activities. Why do I love it?
Spitting certainly is one of my all time favourite activities. Why do I love it? I throughly enjoy sounds and textures, when spitting on someone. Spitting is wonderful because of the variety of sounds associated with it: it can be so subtle sound you can hardly hear- more of a dribble, or an obnoxious loud sound. It can be sensual and mesmerising, like when someone consents to allowing you to spit into their mouth (this can also be wonderful if you are delivering water to someone from your own mouth and can be followed with some spittle, like how birds feed their young) or dribble into their ear.
I often find that someone submitting to you and allowing you to spit in their mouth, on their genitals or into their arse feels like a beautiful and charged power exchange. Allowing someone to do something so visceral to you is hugely erotic or challenging and a for me, is a huge turn on. You can throw in some role play with spitting and degradation, for example throwing in sentences like "I decided not to use lube with the anal this time and just use my spit" (which is, of course not true, but often has the desired effect of making someone feel hugely subservient (and of course this would be consented to beforehand)). Or when you spit on someone's hand and tell them to use the spit as lube as you have no intention of touching their genitals with your hands.
I often have clients coming to me who wish to submit control to me and spitting can often be the activity which, because of its use in films, schoolyards, ideas of cleanliness in society, is considered the most difficult or degrading and a lot of this is revolving in its shock value. I hold space for that to be how people feel towards it being a hard limit or something that they do not wish to experience; I also hold true that spitting is a sensual, fun, erotic activity, whether that be spitting in someones ear, or feeding them your spit. Experiences with a dominant can also be a safe space to explore these feelings around difficult activities, BDSM as therapy as such.
I encourage you to try this sometime... (whilst also being aware of your hard limits and communicating and thinking about those. Hard limits will be the topic of discussion in my next blog.)