Safe words are just that, words that we use to be able to call (or stop) a scene when we need to, to make a scene safe for us to be vulnerable in and perhaps push our boundaries in a way that feels controlled.
Safe words are used to relay information regarding how someone is fairing in a kink scene, or for a top to check in with a submissive or bottom whilst in a kink scene. Safe words are words we use to indicate when we need play to stop, or keep going. These can take a variety of form and are often used because when playing with kink, words like stop, might not mean stop. Read More
When I felt you had throughly ruminated on your behaviour I decided to give you the last and most harsh part of the punishment, the cane. I brandished 5 different canes, from crooked handled to straight canes from thin to thick. I worked you over at first lightly tapping your arse and then moving onto firmer and firmer strokes. Read More
This session, he wanted his first beat down experience. Perhaps when you think of beat downs you think of slapping and punching, there was indeed, plenty of both of these in our time together. There was, however, a plethora of intimacy. Read More
It is a true delight when a submissive does mean “Do whatever makes you happy Mistress”. When they have really thought about their boundaries and comes to the table (I literally do my pre session negotiations around a table) with knowledge of their bodies limits and their hard and soft limits and can say “I want to do whatever makes you happy Mistress.” It is literal joy to my ears. Read More
But the main thing I wish to address in this blog, is the concept that you can go to see a professional in the adult industry and that they know what you want or that they can give you what you want without you explaining what that is or might look like
I want to ask you this: how many times have you asked for what you really wanted, in regards to receiving or giving pleasure? Of the times you received pleasure, did you receive what you deeply craved? Were you able to change that, correct something, change tact and how did that feel? What I came to understand, spending those 5 days with other co-workers, was that there are very feel times that we are encouraged to stop and make the time to feel into our body, for as long as we need to, and to really let our body tell us deeply what it wanted in that moment. Read More